Be authentic... unless it makes me feel uncomfortable.

Marketing authenticity, being authentic, and selling

Write about how clients want us to be authentic, but when we are authentic in ways that aren’t pleasurable or enjoyable, it’s actually not authenticity they want; but the idea of genuine connection.

I got in an argument with a client a long time ago about authenticity and how he wanted our connection to be genuine and real, and yet he would nitpick things that I would post or say which were honest reflections of my feelings and opinions. So where does the fantasy end and the authenticity begin, or is it just that people want to feel like we are being authentic, until it’s inconvenient?

When we are partnered with someone we inevitably have to make compromises for that person. We have to pick up our dirty laundry off the floor now, or help with the dishes even when we are tired. We wear sweatpants and ratty band tees around the house on Sunday, and have to learn patience for the times that our partner inevitably makes us feel angry or frustrated. Part of the allure of hiring a sex worker is that it’s a magical experience that bypasses that sense of compromise; because we are being compensated in the interaction in such a way that it opens our clients to being able to receive affection and intimacy without having to worry about giving it.

When someone hands you an envelope, it’s a lot easier to listen to their problems for the next two hours without feeling like you blew your whole night.

My tolerance for bullshit, as well as my energy for sustaining and maintaining that level of fantasy mixed with authenticity can last a lot longer because it’s authenticity without familiarity… I can be the best parts of myself for our date and then go home and put on my ratty sweatpants in peace.